Your Ideal Roadmap – Part 6

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Forgive. Focus. Find ~

Have you ever had someone accidentally step on your foot, and then keep on walking as if they had not harmed you?  
 
Most of us have had this or some other similar “accident” occur.  
 
Interestingly, all we ever really want is an acknowledgement, right?  
 
After someone steps on our foot, what’s the first thing we say when that person subsequently says, “Oh, I’m sorry.”  
 
We usually say something like, “Oh… that’s ok!”
 
Really?  
 
Is it really ok?  
 
Well, by that logic, someone can repeatedly step on our foot…
 
And, as long as the offender apologizes, we’d be “ok” with our foot getting repeatedly stomped and plodded upon.  
 
Yeah… right!
 
Of course, this is not true. 
 
But it does raise an interesting truism:  When we are hurt, harmed, or hindered by others, we want an acknowledgment from the offenders. 
 
We want proof that they know how much they have hurt us.  Right?
 
Well… if you really want to achieve The Ideal life, simply skip the middleman, and fore-give them the apology.  I delve deeper into this concept and guidance in my book THE IDEAL.  And there is a good reason I am re-stating it here:  

Stop wasting time dwelling on what other people have done… or what other people should do.
 
Instead, focus your attention and energy on finding the activities that make your heart sing.  
 
Forgive yourself for every seemingly stupid, idiotic, or even hurtful little thing you have ever done. 
 
And forgive all those seemingly stupid people, too.  
 
Focus on you.  
 
Apologies don’t make you happy. 
 
You make you happy.  
 
Ready? 
 
Set?  
 
Go!

Forgive. Focus. Find!

Aloha,
​John

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​John H. Clark III is an optimistic realist.
 
He believes better development of leaders is what we (all) need.  And to be better organizations, we need more good leaders, not followers. To build better leaders, we must start with the individual (you, she, he, and me).
 
Described as “an innovative leader,” John teaches leaders, organizations, and individuals how to inspire each other. With a bold goal to inspire a worldwide community of optimistic realists who continuously accept, adapt to, and achieve the bold and beautiful concept of The Ideal Life, John is leading a movement to inspire people to apply his trademarked mantra {Accept. Adapt. Achieve! ®}.
 
An innovative business manager and retired naval officer, John is fascinated by leaders and organizations that make the greatest impact within their organizational culture and within the “real” world — people who “get it.” Over the course of his life as a military leader, corporate mentor, and innovative content creator, John has discovered a wealth of insight about how we think, act and communicate within our respective work/life environments. As a career naval officer, mentor, educator, and optimistic realist, he has devoted his life to sharing insights to assist in our quests to become better at what we all do – live @ work!
 
An optimist with a penchant for writing about realistic solutions to the challenges of everyday life, John is the author of 3 books: a leadership-development insider, "The Ideal: Your guide to An Ideal Life," a teen-focused guide, "Getting Out: Expert Advice for Today’s Teens," and the Christian-based book, "God’s Heartbeat: A Powerful Premise for Leading a Christian Life."
 
He delivers a unique and refreshing point of view to life's seemingly overwhelming situations. 
 
Through books, blogs, and everyday conversation, John's message resonates with an empowering blend of ideals that enrich, uplift, and “authorize” people to set and achieve goals far beyond current mindsets.  His trademarked phrase is a winner: 

~ Inspiring a worldwide community of optimistic realists ~

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